Why I’m Not Scared To Care “Too Much”; And How You Can Be This Fearless, Too

Trying to embrace the #DGAF mindset?! Me too. Well, at least I was. Over the last few years, I did everything in my power to work on “not caring”. I was attempting failing (as you will see) at being the carefree girl who throws her hair in the wind, throws back shots and dances on tables.

Sound familiar?!

[Insert any aspect part of growing up here] and I’ve probably cared about it, tried not to care…and while focusing so hard on not caring…totally failed at “not caring”.

Let’s get real

My early 20’s were anything but easy. I moved across the country, only to be laid off 6 months later and lose the only friends I had due to a stupid fight. So badly I wanted to be fun and #carefree, the way Instagram made me feel like all my peers were. I felt like if could I do this – success at work, making friends and finding a guy would all fall into place. My older sister is the epitome of this person and I was always so jealous that I couldn’t have her mindset.

Meanwhile, I was never going to be that girl dancing on a table because I can barely have two drinks without getting a hangover. Oh, and I pass out at 9 p.m.

The energy I spent focusing on being #DGAF started taking up sooooo much head space. Riddled with anxiety, I’d constantly wonder…why do I care?! And why do I care about caring?!

This is something I constantly hear friends and other 20-somethings say.

“Why do I care so much?”

“Ugh ,Why do I like him sooo much?”

“Why can’t I just be one of those girls who doesn’t give a f****?!”

Raise your hand if you’ve been personally victimized by trying to embrace the #DGAF mindset.

It took me literally spending days making lists and putting things on the list, like, “stop thinking about [insert grown-up problem here]”, (LOL), that I finally started to come to the realization…maybe being a person who loves to care isn’t so bad?! And maybe I’m particularly ‘type A’, but since the rest of millennials literally had to hashtag and start a movement to “stop caring”, I can’t imagine I’m the only one.

The #DGAF mindset that millennials are constantly trying to embrace isn’t necessarily possible realistic. How can you be ambitious or even survive through any challenge while simultaneously not caring? Is this mindset even real? Or is it just a front we put up on social media?! Is it #fakenews?!

I still have no idea. Maybe I’ll never know. What I do know, is that the #DGAF mindset just isn’t me. And it doesn’t have to be you either.

If your the person who does truly care, you should love yourself for caring so much (link). That’s what makes you…YOU. This might be a part of yourself that you have to learn to love with the outside societal pressures telling you otherwise.

If you know me well, you know I desire to be hugely successful at work. I picture myself managing a team one day and will do whatever it takes to accomplish my goals. I spent a good amount of time wishing I could be like others, stopping work at 5 p.m. to go to Happy Hour, but that’s just not me.

And that’s ok.

IMO, all that matters is that you choose to stand on your own two feet and pick what you truly care about everything. Give yourself the ability to let go AND care – that in itself will truly create something beautiful.

You should love that everyone is different and the fact that you are choosing to care about something is a beautiful quality. Maybe one day, your sense of caring will have a positive impact on others.

Alright, that’s it, I’m officially announcing the #GAF campaign.

What do you choose to care about?! Drop a comment below! 

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How I Fell in Love With Myself, and How You Can Too

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